Tuesday, December 7, 2010
magazineee
The magazine is in the process of being born. A very very veryyyy rough copy for a school project. Prepare to be amazed :)
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Blurry Lines
Ohhh, Friends with benefits...where is that line?
Where is the line where you're dating someone? Just fooling around? Just best friends who kiss and secretly crush on each other? How do you know if it's just a hookup?
Man oh man, I'm pretty sure I'm not the best person to answer this question because the blurry lines of relationships are something that I've seemed to have gotten lost on lately. But Erykka told me I should write about them. So here I am, with my first blog in over a month (I'm sorry my dear blog, I've just been so busy!!)
Remember when we were in high school and you knew you were boyfriend and girlfriend because someone asked if you wanted to go out with them, and by that standard you clearly were dating. Fuck, once I told a boy I didn't want a boyfriend but then I kissed him and that meant we were official (clearly...I still think it was a trick).
But now that I'm in college and much wiser beyond my years (or something cliche like that) I'm getting so lost with these relationship standards! So I decided to make a list of what I think it all means and to list some pros and cons for them?
Single: Well, I've figured this one out. I'm riding solo (riding solo, riding solo). I can run around going on dates and kissing whoever I want and no one can get hurt because of that (unless someone is delusional...but yeah). Pros: I CAN KISS WHOEVER I WANT. haha Cons: I probably shouldn't sleep with anyone, cause that's slut-like.
Friends with Benefits: Now this is nice. You can be single but still have ONE person you hook up with. I think it combined the pros and cons of being merely single. However, someone ALWAYS ends up wanting more ((I can't wait to see the new movie coming out on this))
Seeing someone: Going on dates, no strings, but you like them so you're most likely not making out with every man on the face of the earth (this is an assumption of course). Pros: you have someone Cons: the lines are blurryyy
It's Complicated: Boy, this just encompasses every confusing thing you've ever had in a relationship, including "i'm not dating my ex but I'm still in love with he/she and sleeping with he/she and we act like we're together but we have issues and are ignoring them instead of working through them" and "i like this guy but he has a kid with his ex girlfriend and they still live together and sleep in the same bed"
Exclusively dating: this one's kinda simple too. You're only with one person but you're not officially together and it's a little less pressure. Facebook doesn't know that you're in a relationship either. This is like the scaredy-cat's relationship. You're basically boyfriend and girlfriend without the labels. Usually someone gets annoyed with this. haha. I know I would be. I'd be like "hey loser, if you're not my boyfriend and you don't wanna see other people...wtf does that mean?"
In a relationship -- YAY! the Facebook world can now know. So bitches best not be all up in my man's business...also, who else thinks that this means you should only date one person?! Okay, good.
Marriage: Well if you're seeing other people you're really fucked up. haha. Legal, Social, and Religious implications.
Alright, so where do i fall on the spectrum? On the single, it's complicated end. But I'm it's complicated with myself. hahaha. As in, I confuse the crap out of myself. So, let's just say, I'm chillin. Seein what happens...not making out with every man on the planet...cause...you know...i could get an STD that way...but I'm not devoting my life to anyone other than me.
I'm enjoying this chilling bit though. And i might...maybe...probably have this whole crush deal going on ;)
Where is the line where you're dating someone? Just fooling around? Just best friends who kiss and secretly crush on each other? How do you know if it's just a hookup?
Man oh man, I'm pretty sure I'm not the best person to answer this question because the blurry lines of relationships are something that I've seemed to have gotten lost on lately. But Erykka told me I should write about them. So here I am, with my first blog in over a month (I'm sorry my dear blog, I've just been so busy!!)
Remember when we were in high school and you knew you were boyfriend and girlfriend because someone asked if you wanted to go out with them, and by that standard you clearly were dating. Fuck, once I told a boy I didn't want a boyfriend but then I kissed him and that meant we were official (clearly...I still think it was a trick).
But now that I'm in college and much wiser beyond my years (or something cliche like that) I'm getting so lost with these relationship standards! So I decided to make a list of what I think it all means and to list some pros and cons for them?
Single: Well, I've figured this one out. I'm riding solo (riding solo, riding solo). I can run around going on dates and kissing whoever I want and no one can get hurt because of that (unless someone is delusional...but yeah). Pros: I CAN KISS WHOEVER I WANT. haha Cons: I probably shouldn't sleep with anyone, cause that's slut-like.
Friends with Benefits: Now this is nice. You can be single but still have ONE person you hook up with. I think it combined the pros and cons of being merely single. However, someone ALWAYS ends up wanting more ((I can't wait to see the new movie coming out on this))
Seeing someone: Going on dates, no strings, but you like them so you're most likely not making out with every man on the face of the earth (this is an assumption of course). Pros: you have someone Cons: the lines are blurryyy
It's Complicated: Boy, this just encompasses every confusing thing you've ever had in a relationship, including "i'm not dating my ex but I'm still in love with he/she and sleeping with he/she and we act like we're together but we have issues and are ignoring them instead of working through them" and "i like this guy but he has a kid with his ex girlfriend and they still live together and sleep in the same bed"
Exclusively dating: this one's kinda simple too. You're only with one person but you're not officially together and it's a little less pressure. Facebook doesn't know that you're in a relationship either. This is like the scaredy-cat's relationship. You're basically boyfriend and girlfriend without the labels. Usually someone gets annoyed with this. haha. I know I would be. I'd be like "hey loser, if you're not my boyfriend and you don't wanna see other people...wtf does that mean?"
In a relationship -- YAY! the Facebook world can now know. So bitches best not be all up in my man's business...also, who else thinks that this means you should only date one person?! Okay, good.
Marriage: Well if you're seeing other people you're really fucked up. haha. Legal, Social, and Religious implications.
Alright, so where do i fall on the spectrum? On the single, it's complicated end. But I'm it's complicated with myself. hahaha. As in, I confuse the crap out of myself. So, let's just say, I'm chillin. Seein what happens...not making out with every man on the planet...cause...you know...i could get an STD that way...but I'm not devoting my life to anyone other than me.
I'm enjoying this chilling bit though. And i might...maybe...probably have this whole crush deal going on ;)
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Positive Magazines
I'm curious.
What magazines did you read as a child? I'm talking before the formidable teenage years. I know I always loved to read that magazine that's at the doctor's offices with the fun games. I don't remember what it's called.
But I remember I was head over heels in love with American Girl magazine. Anything American Girl actually. I wanted the dolls (I got Josephina), I wanted all of the books (and I've got a bunch, including All About You, which teaches on puberty), and i religiously read the magazine. I briefly religiously read all other forms of teen magazines, but once you get out of the American Girl doll phase, it's really all downhill from there.
Take the next magazine I started reading, for example, J-14. It's supposed to target 14-year-olds. The only thing I remember from that magazine is that it had JTT on it and thus was good enough for me. But it was ALL about celebrity teens (seriously, Justin Bieber would be the king of this magazine). None of it was about me, as a teen.
It just got worse from there, though I never could have imagined it. Innocently, I read the next step of magazines. CosmoGirl! and Seventeen being the most prominent, of course. I dabbled in other teen magazines like GL and Teen Vogue. But the glossy pages of Seventeen and CosmoGirl! seemed to just pull you in with their alluring, "look pretty now" affordable fashion.
Somewhere around 16, I realized how much bullshit those magazines were, are. They cut you down and make you question every thing you do and I blame the tendency of my generation of girls to overanalyze ever minute detail of a relationship on them and popular tv shows that are marketed to the age.
Seriously, can we stop the exploitation?! Can we teach women that they should love their beautiful bodies and they just need to be themselves to be happy! The clothes, the tips, the guys in those magazines ARE NOT going to make us happy. Don't even get me started on Cosmopolitan. Let's just say very few boys actually agree with their "sex tips."
In my years wanting to start my own alternative magazine, I'm surprised I wasn't turned onto one that already existed until last year. Teen Voices is the redeeming teen magazine in the magazine world. Yet, I've NEVER ONCE seen it on a magazine stand. I only know of it from research for classes on the magazine industry.
The best part about Teen Voices, is it's written for teens, BY teens. Pretty freaking sweet if you ask me.
This magazine doesn't stop me from wanting to start my Warrior Queen magazine (which I should be getting a tattoo for within the next few days). It makes me want to start a MARKET for these magazines. I want my magazine to help pave the way for teen voices - because that's going to be the better magazine for teen girls to read. By the time my magazine makes it, I'm going to be just as removed from this lifestyle as the other editors are. But I'm going to hold onto the passion.
ah! I'm just so impassioned and excited right now. I'll post pix of my tattoo when I get it later this week!
What magazines did you read as a child? I'm talking before the formidable teenage years. I know I always loved to read that magazine that's at the doctor's offices with the fun games. I don't remember what it's called.
But I remember I was head over heels in love with American Girl magazine. Anything American Girl actually. I wanted the dolls (I got Josephina), I wanted all of the books (and I've got a bunch, including All About You, which teaches on puberty), and i religiously read the magazine. I briefly religiously read all other forms of teen magazines, but once you get out of the American Girl doll phase, it's really all downhill from there.
Take the next magazine I started reading, for example, J-14. It's supposed to target 14-year-olds. The only thing I remember from that magazine is that it had JTT on it and thus was good enough for me. But it was ALL about celebrity teens (seriously, Justin Bieber would be the king of this magazine). None of it was about me, as a teen.
It just got worse from there, though I never could have imagined it. Innocently, I read the next step of magazines. CosmoGirl! and Seventeen being the most prominent, of course. I dabbled in other teen magazines like GL and Teen Vogue. But the glossy pages of Seventeen and CosmoGirl! seemed to just pull you in with their alluring, "look pretty now" affordable fashion.
Somewhere around 16, I realized how much bullshit those magazines were, are. They cut you down and make you question every thing you do and I blame the tendency of my generation of girls to overanalyze ever minute detail of a relationship on them and popular tv shows that are marketed to the age.
Seriously, can we stop the exploitation?! Can we teach women that they should love their beautiful bodies and they just need to be themselves to be happy! The clothes, the tips, the guys in those magazines ARE NOT going to make us happy. Don't even get me started on Cosmopolitan. Let's just say very few boys actually agree with their "sex tips."
In my years wanting to start my own alternative magazine, I'm surprised I wasn't turned onto one that already existed until last year. Teen Voices is the redeeming teen magazine in the magazine world. Yet, I've NEVER ONCE seen it on a magazine stand. I only know of it from research for classes on the magazine industry.
The best part about Teen Voices, is it's written for teens, BY teens. Pretty freaking sweet if you ask me.
This magazine doesn't stop me from wanting to start my Warrior Queen magazine (which I should be getting a tattoo for within the next few days). It makes me want to start a MARKET for these magazines. I want my magazine to help pave the way for teen voices - because that's going to be the better magazine for teen girls to read. By the time my magazine makes it, I'm going to be just as removed from this lifestyle as the other editors are. But I'm going to hold onto the passion.
ah! I'm just so impassioned and excited right now. I'll post pix of my tattoo when I get it later this week!
Saturday, September 25, 2010
WQ Empowerment
Check out this article i had to read for my women and men in the media class. LET'S WQ IT UP!!!
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