Trust Yourself, Trust Your Relationship

To have trust in your relationship, you must first trust yourself. I don’t think I’ve ever had a thought that was more true. A relationship will not last without trust, but you cannot fully go into that relationship without trusting yourself. The core of all love is to love yourself.

There have been times in my life and boyfriends that I’ve dated that have done some really shady things. I’m sure you can figure out some of those shading things and understand why I may not trust another person. I might fear that they will break my trust, like everyone in the past had.

When you set a relationship up for disaster in such a way, it will end in disaster. The root of setting yourself up to have a positive relationship is to trust in you.

You must believe that you make the right decisions for yourself. You must believe that your intuition is greater than the fears. You must believe that.

When I was twenty-one I was in a very complicated relationship. If you choose to read through the archives you will find the blog posts spurred on by my anger or agony. I trusted myself and, though many people may think it strange, I do not regret one thing in that relationship.

I trusted that I would know when enough was enough. My line for enough may be different than yours, and another’s may be even further down the line than mine. We each do what we have to do. We trust ourselves.

While trusting myself, I knew I needed a reminder of my trust and of my strength. I knew the time had come for my first tattoo – my first letter to myself. After years of writing on my arm to remind me of my strength, I got it permanently engraved in my skin.

The warrior queen logo is my symbol to myself that I trust my decisions. There are days in relationships where that trust might not be apparent. There are moments when the fear takes over.

Then my voice of reason steps in; the voice that reminds me that I know when enough is enough. If I were to be hurt or fooled it is because I needed it for some greater good. I trust myself to do what I need when I need it.

And that is why I will always have trust in my relationship. If I know in my heart that things are right, they are right. If I feel like something is wrong – deep in my heart – then I trust myself to do what is right.

How do you know that you trust yourself? Do you have trust in your relationship?

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Tiffany and I hit it off when I first got back into blogging and I seriously think we'd hang out all of the time if she didn't live across the country from me. Endless Bliss is her corner where she shares all things happy and motivational, as well as her love of books and movies! I can't get enough of this sweet girl!

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1. What makes you lucky? 

  I consider myself lucky for so many reasons. 1) I've found love. I see so many people live their lives without love. They become skeptics that it even exists. I like sharing my love story with Jon with other people and give them hope of finding their only love one day. 2) I'm so blessed to have amazing people around me. My friends and family are irreplacable. Even people that I don't talk to on a regular basis, I still love them, and I'm so lucky to have them in my life. 3) I'm not homeless. I have food to eat. I'm not broke. I'm so lucky to have so many things that a lot of people take for granted. And 4) the obvious one - I'm lucky to be alive and living a life so beautiful that I'm in awe of it every day.  

2. If you found a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, what would you spend it on? 

 If I found a pot a gold, I would obviously use it for a few practical things first like paying of my student loans and car and maybe buying a house or something. Then after all of that responsible stuff is done, I would spend it traveling. I think traveling is one of the most wonderful things a person can do, and I want to do as much of it as possible.

3. What are you looking forward to most this spring? 

I'm looking forward to wearing shorts again! Spring is one of my favorite seasons (minus the bugs, the rain and the bird poop). Spring is just so beautiful with all of the flowers blooming and sun shining. I can't wait to have picnics with my boyfriend and take walks with my dog, Molly, in my high-waisted shorts and tank tops. Oh, bliss.

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Friendships: Growing Up and Growing Apart

I'm almost twenty-five; and in June, i will have been out of high school for seven years. It doesn't seem to matter how long ago you graduated, though, high school-like drama always seems to find you. Sometimes friendships grow apart, as we grow up but we don't realize the friendship has come to an end until it is filled with toxic drama. Friendship drama is the worst. I am sure we all have it as we grow apart. 
The worst part about growing up and growing apart is knowing when it's time to call it quits.
I've had a few friendships end too late, and others that I thought ended too soon. With another person involved in the friendship, it is easy to feel slighted. 

After high school and college it is harder to keep in contact with friends. We spend 40+ hours a week working, hours in traffic (for commuters like me) and it's easy to come home and just be exhausted. 
When we're in high school, our different interests make our friendships worthwhile. As we grow and get into different careers, we start to have less in common. 
That is when friendships start to fade. It takes a lot more work to stay in contact with someone whose day to day life is different than yours. It doesn't mean that those friendships have to end, just that they take more work. 
Both of you must work harder to keep your friendship strong. It is a careful balance. 
I have had many friendships where I've felt like I've given more and ended up getting slighted; and I've had friendships where I've given my all and I realize now, that it was still not enough. Holding grudges only makes the drama worse.
As we grow apart, letting go earlier is easier. 
Some times, a solution to growing apart is having a true heart-to-heart about your current lives. If you feel like your friend never texts you back, maybe it is because she actually doesn't like texting (or have time) and would prefer a phone call from now on. 
The important part in growing apart and avoiding drama, is to always be graceful in your conversations. A friend may be lashing out at you and your friendship. Don't snap back or ignore his/her feelings. Try to be understanding.

At the same time, it is important to realize when it's over. Sometimes those words "I am sorry, I just don't think we are very good friends anymore." 
Hopefully, your friend feels it, too, or can help you find a way to stop your friendship from growing apart. 
Or there's the drama approach with the response being along the lines of "Fine then don't be my friend" or "You really seem to care so much about me to end the friendship."
Unfortunately, then you are left with a dilemma. Do you enter into the drama or do you just let it be? 
My response? Let it be! 

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