Saturday, September 5, 2009

Hate is Easy, Love Takes Courage

So, I haven't really been talking about relationships recently because, to me, being a warrior queen isn't just about relationships. It's within every aspect of your life. But there are certain moments when being a warrior queen does revolve around relationships, and on occasion I have an epiphany. Which I like to share, so here it goes. =]

Relationships are about timing. Love is forever. Love can withstand anything because that is an emotion not something that is truly affected by other people. Regardless of how badly someone hurts you, you probably will still love them in some way, care for them in some way. Relationships, however, rely entirely upon two people and their emotions.

At some point in life, with every person and every relationship, the timing is going to be off. People are going to get annoyed with other people. Other outside influences are going to affect the relationship. But that does not mean that that relationship is irreparably damaged. It just means that it might not be the right times in each person's life to be together.

It's true in romantic, familial and friend relationships. I hate burning bridges, but sometimes, you have to take a break from talking to someone, or from being as close to them for your own well-being. It's not selfish because the first thing you need to take care of is yourself. If that person is a true friend - a true relationship - they're going to understand and they're going to be there waiting for you. Or you can start it again.

This has happened to me too many times to count. ebb and flow. It's happened with some of my best friends and it's happened in relationships. Which is why, when someone tells me to be forever done with another person, I just can't listen. Do not judge me because of this, but understand that my heart and way of life is a lot more understanding and open than others are. True, it does allow for a lot more hurt, but there is also a lot of love.

3 comments:

  1. Forgiveness, empathy and love are a few of my key components of being a Warrior Queen. They are very regal aspects that separate us from the superficial people out there.

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  2. I feel like people forget that you can love more than one person. Everyone I know stays in crappy relationships, because they love the person. But you can love someone else after the person.

    There are so many people out there, why would anyone stay with someone who you have to lower your standards for? What is the difference between compromising/accepting a person's flaws and settling? I don't get it.

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