Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Self-Esteem

On my xanga, I follow a series of blogs about things that interest me like datingish, lovelyish, ireallylikefood, and healthkicker. They always seem to have really interesting posts from a bunch of different people, which is how I wish this blog was and how I wish for the magazine to be. Anyway, I was all set to write a satirical blog when I discovered this. We talked about this in my psych of women class tonight.  The satire will have to wait till tomorrow. Enjoy:

Having low self esteem really effects all aspects of your life particularly your love relationships. Low self esteem is also a vicious circle: you start to actually believe your value is less than it actually is. Why? Because you're starving for the love, support and attention you need. You're at a point where you will take any relationship to fill that void even if it is not the best for you. "Something is better than nothing" is your mindset. It does not have to be this way though.

Low self esteem self help starts with taking a personal inventory of yourself and admitting you have a problem. Are you passive and not always standing up for yourself when you should? Do you have trouble accepting compliments from others? For example, when someone says your hair looks great, do you say “thanks,” or do you say “you don’t have to lie, I know it does not look that good”?  Do you think you have no control over anything in your life? If you said yes to more than one of those, you might suffer to some degree of low self esteem.
So how can you improve your self esteem fast?
For starters, you must stop talking negatively to yourself. If you do not like you, why should anyone else? If you can not compliment yourself, why should anyone else? Love yourself first, be your biggest fan.
Next, face your personal flaws head on and do not avoid them. If you know that you lack confidence, then admit it to yourself so you can start working on it. It is sometimes painful to admit our shortcomings, but by getting them out in the open, you learn to accept that some areas of your life need improvement, and can now take the next step of making life changes. When making these changes, it is best to fake it until you make it so to speak. If you want to be a more confident person, then think about how a confident person acts, then start doing that.  At first you will be faking it, but eventually, you will become a more confident person.

How do you keep your self esteem up? What do you do to perk yourself up?

Post contributed from www.ChangeYourLifeHacks.com.  << and healthkicker

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