Thursday, November 21, 2013

TBT: Treasure Chest

This is one of my all time favorite blog posts. I originally wrote it in May 2011, when I was struggling with a lot of friendships and relationships. I'm happy to say that my friend who came up with this analogy is still a friend of mine today. She is the girl who promised she would never leave...which may not sound like much to some people, but to me, it means the world!



My friend's sister came up with this analogy when she was in high school and I think it's very warrior queen so I wanted to share it. It's my new philosophy that I've adopted. It encompasses all aspects of life in dealing with people and (sometimes) their toxicity.

Inside each and every one of us, there is a treasure chest of gems - rubies, diamonds, gold colins, emeralds, etc. And before we form a relationship with anybody, we must evaluate if their treasure will be as valuable as the treasure we are giving them. This is true in any relationship, whether it be friendship (what originally sparked this conversation), a relationship (which is what started the philosophy) or any sort of partnership.
Basically, is this person going to be as good to you and for you as you are to them? Too many times we form bonds and relationships with people who are just not a great match. We like to try to fix them, but no one can fix another person, they must fix themselves. You can offer ideas and advice and support them, but why support something that is toxic and will only drain you? This becomes a parasitic relationship and you will resent that person.
Now the part that I was struggling with is that I have been feeling deceived. When these relationships of mine began they were anything but toxic. Our treasure was of equal value. But as time wore on, my treasure held its value (as it always does because I'm more focused on relationships than anything else) but theirs did not.

People change, circumstances change, events transpire...but it does not mean that the treasure I was originally given is cubic zirconia compared to my diamonds. It just means that that relationship has expired. It can be renewed in the future, perhaps if the value hasn't deteriorated completely.


It's like this:

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4 comments:

  1. I know you posted this awhile ago but I was going back through your posts and realized that I am going through this right now! It is so difficult to know when someone is being toxic for me. I am not sure what to do with this friendship, all that I know is that it drains me so much! Thank you so much for posting this!

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  2. I'm so happy you saw it at a time that you needed it! It's kind of why I decided to repost it. It's one of my favorites and something I always try my best to remember. Toxic friendships are the literal worst. They drain your happiness almost more than some romantic relationships! What I always do, is I say what I feel and if they don't like it or respond well, then I just take a break. If we can be friends again later, amazing. If not, then I guess they were only needed in my life for that short period of time

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  3. That is such good advice, although I think it'll be difficult to separate myself from this friend. I definitely need to be honest with her

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  4. I hope you can be honest with her and she takes it well and you two can work things out!!!

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